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[Moonlight]

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At first defiantly yes but we have been married a long time. In the bedroom, yes but in the rest of our marriage I am honestly not sure. We are in a very rural area of the country and I am used to not being able to talk about our lifestyle since others do not understand us. My mom thinks I am nuts, but at least she knows my husband well enough and sees for herself how much he loves me to know I am not abused. I don't dare bring this up to my friends here for fear they will think I am abused. We all know the local police by name and where they live, I don't need the hassle or others thinking I need to be convinced I am in a bad marriage.

He was very upset last night. After he sat quietly staring at the TV for a couple hours then he got really clingy which is normal for him when he is really upset. I will try talking to him tonight and remind him how important it is.

We both drink lightly but rarely get drunk. Thankfully we got our hard partying out of our system early on in our marriage.

 

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[Tumbl3]

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*hugs* Usually the way I approach situations like that (I've had friends who have been through some pretty bad things, though not as bad as that), is I've let them know that if they wanted to talk about anything I was there to listen, that I loved them dearly, and then I hugged them and stopped talking about it until they were ready.
It has always worked for me, and the most important thing about being a good listener is showing interest and most importantly, being honest without being harsh (unless harsh is needed).
I hope he can talk about it. I agree with Seb that stuffing away feelings is one of the biggest disasters of american masculinity. In fact it actually extends to femininity as well. It has taken me many years (and a lot of therapy) to be able to open up to my mother and sister and very close friends.

Also *claps* thank you Smallest!

 

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[Moonlight]

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Thanks. He came home ready to talk. His co workers and him talked a lot as well. He is still saddened by the loss but he did not walk in the front door looking like he was hit by a truck today. Yesterday he came in and just sat there staring at the tv. I don't think he was even watching what was on. I felt so helpless. I don't know his work friends really well. I have met them and spoken to them from time to time but when they go out that is his guy time where they go for a drink, shoot some guns and whatever else it is they do.

I don't talk well with my mom either. She is so judgmental and everything has to be her way or it is wrong. I just end up getting mad and shutting down on her then ignoring her. Then she starts harassing me with guilt trips until I finally talk to her again, so I never talk about anything but superficial topics. I have made my husband super proud of me by standing up to her a few times lately and not letting her guilt trip me into doing things her way but man the drama almost isn't worth it.

 

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This is new to me and things happened slow I didn't even realize what was happening. I'm not sure what the lable would be maybe sub but, I don't call him my master or anything. I have some questions if anyone can lead me in the right direction.

 

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When will I know if he's dominating me

 

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[Tumbl3]

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I'm glad he talked and I'm glad he's been talking to his work friends. It's good that he is getting that out.
And yikes about your Mom. It sounds like my mom's ex-husband, except he hardly ever guilt tripped me. A lot of the things he did really fucked up my life for a while.

 

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I'm a bit late to join in with Moonlight and Tumbl3's conversation, but thank you, Sebastian. I've been away all weekend, so I'm hoping it's not gotten too bad, or that Jey's been in the background while I was gone (he often is).

 

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[Moonlight]

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He is doing much better after this weekend. I told his best friends wife, so his best friend made sure to take the weekend off. He is an over the road truck driver and almost worked through the weekend.

Ya my mom can be such a pain. I have a 7 year old daughter. I have caught her several times with the same bullshit tactics she used on me. I threatened her with not seeing my daughter anymore. She got mad when she did not want to drop playing with her friends and go to her house. She stormed to the door telling her "fine then I don't want you at my house." Normally I would have just let her go but I told her if she didn't knock it off she wouldn't be welcome in our home anymore. My little girl was crying that grandma was mad at her. Sometimes I think it would be easier if she just moved away.

 

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[Moonlight]

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So this week starts with my daughter scratching her head. I asked her what was wrong and she went on about her head itching. My husband says she has been complaining all day. I got a horrible suspicion so I did a head check. Yep she's got freaking head lice. Ick, yuck, gross, gag.:curse: I only found a few nits so hopefully that means I caught it really early. I called the doctor and he phoned her in an Rx. What he didn't want to see her???

 

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Haha Moonlight I am sure he did not, would you? I love that your husband didn't even notice that is so much fun!

I cannot believe I am currently still awake and know I will pay for it tomorrow. Luckily. I do not think I actually have anything going on; just functioning as a "normal" human being as best I can. Though I am quite glad I found this little site, it can be lonely for the insanely shy. I am excited to get to know others and learn as much as I can. I find I become more comfortable as I explore my new side to myself the more knowledge I obtain.

I guess technically I am paying today because tomorrow is today.... eee yuck!!!

 

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