How old were you at that time?

[UseMe256]

less than 16, cant remember when exactly... but it was on CSI and thats what introduced me to BDSM. good old Lady Heather.

 

[Amuk]

In the strictest sense, I've only been interested in the past year or so. However, I've always had thoughts that apparently pertain to the BDSM world. I just never knew it prior to the revelation that happened to me. I always used to think that I was going to be a crappy boyfriend because I wanted control and I didn't want to have to listen (just basic things like that), but then I found my ex-sub. Sure, things didn't work out between her and I, but that's not my fault lol However, now I've found someone else that will hopefully work out much better. =)

 

[theonlyone]

I would say I've been a sub from very early on. In elementry school I would play slave for my friends (crawl around the playground,let them hit me, etc.) and have since I can remember imagined being tied to my bed, tortured and left all night tied up. I didn't realize what these feelings meant untill I went to a strip club for a friends batchlorette party and was mistaken by the 'S&M' performer as the as the batchlorette. I say that's proof that God wants us in touch with our true sexual identity.

 

[lost.soul07]

wow i think this poll is interesting and informing... i didnt really know what bdsm was until i was like 18... but i can always remember having fantasies that were not "normal", rape/torture/spanking/bondage... i awlays though there was something wrong with himi for having those thoughts... but now i am embracing this!! it just seems like everyone else started at a very young age, like when i was 10 i didnt even know what sex was! haha

 

[brittany6142006]

I can honestly say that it wasn't me that actually became interested in it, it was my boyfriend that brought me to attention of his extreme like towards it. I've been dabbling since he told me about it, and I've learned a lot about myself since then.
=]

 

[J3Z]

I was probably around 16 or 17...so i haven˙t been into bdsm that long, lol...but i pretty much got into it after seeing pics, stories, movies online and later i really became interested after experiencing it more in second life... After that i got pretty much hooked, lol


Cheers!

 

[goodgirl]

I would act out rough sex, rape or hostage situations with my dolls when I was young.

 

[Miss Heather]

I would have been about 13 or 14 and it all stems from my huge love/obsession with piercings. BMEzine and lots of research into various piercings and body mods led me into research about BDSM and I just fell in love with the idea.

Never really got to explore it until I met my boyfriend who has been a lot of firsts for me. He was always submissive even when our relationship was more vanilla. As we became more trusting and comfortable with each other it led into crossdressing, then him requesting me of to be rough with him during sex, which then led to a bit of rollplaying, spanking, handcuffs, and eventually him asking me to as he put it "be mean". I'm still sort getting used to actually being able to do this for real. It still takes me a while to switch from nice wouldn't hurt a fly Heather to mean dominating Heather whenever we play.

 

[Nuisance]

I would say even though I was never able to try anything with a partner until about 30, that the interest has always been there. Even as a pre-teen I remember the rape and torture fantasies that were always present. And sex was not right for me until I understood why I wanted to be made to submit and used.

 

[sarah555]

This just proves to me, you're just born a sub or a dom, kinda like homosexuality.

I remembered at a very early age, maybe 7 or 8, I watched a movie which involves a woman being tied up, and tortured. And after that, I couldn't stop having fantasies of being in her position. And I'd hang my barbies upside down naked and play torturing them.

I was publicly molested when I was 10. We were playing soccer downstairs, I was the only girl with a bunch of boys. This stranger came up to me, asked me for the time, and as I looked at my watch, he started fingering me, I was shocked and outrage and humiliated. He just kept laughing at my reaction, I was so embarrassed about what he did, I couldn't tell the other boys around me. He went to chat them up while I was hostile towards him, and the other boys couldn't figure why I was being soo negative and hostile towards this new "nice" guy. But when I went home, I was soooo turned on, that's when I first learnt how to finger myself, I locked myself in a room and cried and continue fingering myself, I told myself this is punishment for myself, not understanding why I liked what he did, and somehow the embarrassment and humiliation just gets me all sexually aroused.
Throughout my teens, guys I've had sex with, I always request that they tie and blindfold me. But I could never tell them to hit me, although I wanted so much to be hit while tied up. I was afraid of abuse.

Then I met my husband, whom I trusted very well, and tried to slowly explain to him how being spanked or slapped around heightens my sexual pleasure. He played along very reluctantly, and he hated it, said he felt like a bastard doing that to me. But it came to a point where i can't get aroused without being smack around a little.

Then my husband left me for someone more vanilla. And I went online searching for a dom, and I found my current master.