kiera - Your boyfriend doesn't want to hurt you or be mean to you. He's been taught most of his life to be kind and loving to those he cares for... especially women. You might need some help getting him to understand not only that you like this, but that what you are asking for is not what "he" perceives it to be.
Here's a link, originally posted by sillylittlepet - called BDSM for Nice Guys
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdniceguy.html
If your guy really cares about you, and it sounds like he does, have him read it so that he can understand you better.
Sebastian has also suggested that you start with telling him that he can have sex with you anytime he wants, any way, anywhere he wants, to getting him use to using you on demand, and move on from there. But I think he will comment on this himself.
There is also a book you may want to get and share with him. It's called "When Someone You Love is Kinky" by Easton and Liszt.
If he has an inclination to move forward, get him "The New Topping Book", also be Easton.
It will take him further in his understanding, and has a humorous approach to domination.
The best book you could give him is "The Loving Dominant" by John Warren. I mention this last because it is mostly for people who already know they are dominant and want to understand more about themselves and what to do about it.
I gotta warn you though kiera, that some guys just don't come around, usually cause they're just a little too hung up to actually let it go.
We've all dealt with it before, in one way or another.
I believe that all people (male and female) have either a little Dom or a little sub in them. Getting it to come out is different.
For some, and for most of those that would approach this site, we know early on what we are. Sometimes, we know even before we reach puberty. We pay special attention as children to cartoons or movies where someone gets tied up or spanked, or gagged.... I think you know what I mean.
Hope your guy comes around. Hope these things help.
By the way... Welcome to the forum.
Stick around and let us know how things are going.
There are many who don't post, but have the same problem as you and would like to follow your progress.
Lastly - Please read through the beginners FAQ for additional talk about this kind of stuff, and some stuff you need to know, especially if you decide to seek out someone else who "will" dominate you.