safe words

Sparrow69 · Jul 26, 2009

Safe words are wonderful for fetishists. remember, lao, not everyone dives full tilt into this lifestyle. some merely dabble their feet in the shallow end, and hey, whatever your comfortable with is what you should do. If people feel more capable to press their limits with the use of a safe word, then i say make one. this lifestyle is all about communication and self expression. to say someone is doing it wrong, is as arbitrary as saying your way is the only way, and that is the fastest way to get blacklisted in every facet of this community.
Arrogence will get a person nowhere, being open and accepting of people and their valuse will get you everywhere in life.

Obedient Little Puppy · Jul 26, 2009

Seconded. How would you feel if something went dangerously wrong as a result of your refusal to employ a safeword?

master jey · Jul 26, 2009

Seconded. How would you feel if something went dangerously wrong as a result of your refusal to employ a safeword?

i don't even know
but it's just a game and if something is dangerous sub can say
If someone dies in your hands it wont be a game anymore agree?

Obedient Little Puppy · Jul 26, 2009

Exactly.

monocrome · Jul 27, 2009

just a chime-in: safewords are also VERY handy when you put someone in what you assume to be a mundane position/experience that disturbs them for which you could have had no prior knowledge. someone wanted to take me in front of a mirror (a rather mundane act for a lot of people) and i ended up absolutely YELLING the safe word b/c some horrible things have happened to me in a sexual sense while being forced to look in a mirror... but there was NO WAY he could have known that... and without a safe word, the entire evening could have been ruined in very detrimental ways.

Obedient Little Puppy · Jul 27, 2009

Yeah, that's a good point, as I've been in similar situations myself in the past

master jey · Jul 27, 2009

Yeah, that's a good point, as I've been in similar situations myself in the past

there waren't same situations for me

Sparrow69 · Jul 27, 2009

consider yourself fortunate.... most in this lifestyle have a past trauma.

monocrome · Jul 28, 2009

bondels said:
This lifestyle is about one group of people who like to fuck another group of people while their tied up - you and your fancy words

i'm actually addressing this part of the post, not towards "User Lao" (aka bondels), but b/c i hear this expressed far too much and it just ISN'T SO for all of us.

sex is only one part of any of my relationships, but the entirety of my relationships are bdsm or at least seen through the lense of bdsm, as that is just who i am. (as i have said to many - at least for me, this is not a "what it is that i do" it is a "who it is that i am").

bluelagoon1988 · Jul 29, 2009

monocrome said:
i'm actually addressing this part of the post, not towards "User Lao" (aka bondels), but b/c i hear this expressed far too much and it just ISN'T SO for all of us.

sex is only one part of any of my relationships, but the entirety of my relationships are bdsm or at least seen through the lense of bdsm, as that is just who i am. (as i have said to many - at least for me, this is not a "what it is that i do" it is a "who it is that i am").

Well said. For me, the sexual satisfaction is wonderful but it's a small piece of the puzzle. I have always been unhappy with past relationships because of this. I dont just like rough sex and being spanked...thats just a drop in the bucket for how complex it really is. That is why you can never ask somebody to be a dom or a sub for you, they have to do whether you're there or not and just want to do it with you.

It's really adding another criteria to the dating strainer, for some people its religion, for me it's this now. I couldnt be happier to have found that out at my tender age.

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