new to BDSM

[Tingettley]

So im kinda new to this whole BDSM thing, and kind of got interested by reading the first few pages of the artist Shiniez's works on Hentai-foundry.com. I have this feeling that i would love to be dominated, but at the same time i love having control. Was hoping I could talk to someone, maybe find out if this is for me, or if its not.

Thanks to all who write back

 

[sebastian]

Well, what turns you on?

 

[master jey]

Share some of your fantasies

 

[Exploring2dark]

Exactly.. And as for which direction you are interested in going, there are those that enjoy both. Typically they are labelled as "switches"..

 

[Tingettley]

Well im actually not hard to turn on, I love nails digging in my back, biting, scratching... i know its not much, but its something. I have had my heart torn out twice w/i a 6 month period, and my last Ex wont even talk to me, its humiliating... and it makes me want her back even more. I have never been tied up, I have been spanked. But to be honest, when i see a woman tied up and being submissive, it just turns me on, and yet because i dont know what all women like, i love having them tell me how to please them. I tell ya.. its really weird

I really dont have a fantasy yet... so like i said, i really dont know what i want yet.

Im just looking for someone to talk to atm, like im great with my hands, and i love strong women, that has to count for something right?

 

[Foreverbunny91]

That's not weird at all! You'll find a lot of people that share you similar desires if you look.

Have you tried reading erotica or watching BDSM porn? That tends to not be the best or most realistic depictions of BDSM, but it will give you somewhat of an idea of what you might like. (When is porn ever realistic, anyway? LOL.) I have found that I liked a lot more than I thought I ever would by just reading erotica.

 

[Tingettley]

Yeah, i found this great storyline of two Les who find eachother after all thier lives they cant seem to find anything to appease them. The one scares off all her ex BFs, and the other wants to be dominated, and all the guy ever seems to think of that is Doggy. So they find eachother online, and it works out great for both. Its a great story, its what got me interested in BDSM in the first place

 

[Tingettley]

ya know... noticing this cock ring add... i have noticed ive been putting this Jinx rubber wristband around my junk... and enjoying the feeling of it being there

 

[Foreverbunny91]

There's tons of great things like that. Check out cock and ball torture (cbt). You might not like all of the toys, but there's plenty of different types of cock cages, ball stretchers and harnesses. Some even come with rings to attach lashes to

 

[Tingettley]

well thanks for some basics in advice, even though it seemed like i was kinda talking to myself alot since no one replied fast xD. I guess ill just have to delv deeper, maybe find a newb mistress to see how we both take to it, vs having someone whos hardcore be my first (for BDSM anyway) all i can say is, im hella interested. Ive been humiliated and torn down emotionally, and at the same time ive been praised for taking control of her while we were together.

So again thanks. If i have any more questions ill post a thread