Hi Nataliemarie,
Welcome to the board.
You might want to check out my response to a similar question we had recently here.
http://www.smplace.com/forum/568334-is-it-worth-the-effort-to-involve-this-man-im-interested-in.html
Also check out the FAQ...and in particular Sebastian's post on corrupting a vanilla boyfriend.
http://www.smplace.com/forum/1248552-post28.html
Like Friskydingo, I think you will find he will be very happy, as long as you don't scare him off.
Take it slowly, and begin with extremely mild play. Over time men naturally become bored with a particular "game", and they will want to ramp things up a little. That's exactly what you're trying to achieve. Eventually you can have an open discussion with him about how he could actively dominate you, as opposed to you "topping from the bottom".
You may already be well along this path, so forgive me if I'm backtracking.
Example: He's fucking you, and you get him to hold your wrists over your head. This is extremely mild, but it starts to give him the idea of dominating you.
Example: As he first penetrates you, just say "Please don't hurt me!". He may ask if you're OK and check that he's not actually hurting you. Ease him inside you, and kiss him. Then whisper "You're not huring me, but I sometimes fantasize that you're forcing yourself on me. You don't need to be rough with me...but you can be a little bit rough if you want to." Most men will be a little bit worried about being "rough", because they may not understand how to cause erotic pain, as opposed to actually beating a person up. Tell him he can bite your nipples, or spank you on the ass...that kind of thing.
These are just ways to "point him in the right direction" without making him think you're a psycho. If he Googles the Top Ten Female Fantasies, then rape fantasies are always high on the list. The fact that this is such a consistent response to the question about fantasies tends to be a bit controversial, but it's obviously not something women want to happen for real - these are just fantasies.
If you can be patient with your current boyfriend then I think you'll find you can corrupt him.
I guess you need to be prepared to face certain questions:
How much am I invested in this guy?
Is the relationship generally good, and going in the right direction (outside of the BDSM issue)?
If this guy is a "keeper", then I would strongly recommend investing the time to slowly introduce him to your fantasies.
Communicaiton is all important, and because you are very young you can set a good example in your relationship right now that will make it so much better for you for the rest of your life.
Train him to communicate with you. I know this "training" idea sounds counter-intuitive, because he is supposed to be the Dom. But if you "reward him" for communicating openly, he will be more comfortable doing it.
For him the reward will be sex - pure and simple.
But the act of communicating can involve, for example, him sharing his own fanatasies with you. By the way, you can break the ice at one of these fantasy sessions by telling a joke before you start revealing anything to each other. Here goes...
Alice and Bob have been married for many years, and to spice things up in the bedroom they decide to share with each other the people they fantasize about sleeping with.
They both write down three names, and Alice goes first because it was all her idea.
She turns her paper face-up and it reads:
- Brad Pitt
- George Clooney
- Will Smith
Bob turns his list face up and it reads...
- Jenny, your little sister
- Anna, your big sister
- Suzie, your best friend
The point of the joke is that most male fantasies are grounded in actually wanting to do this stuff, whereas most female fantasies stay as fantasies, and they serve the purpose of escapism and excitement.
But here's the kicker...you actually want to live out your fantasies. In fact, because you're submissive, you would actually be turned on by living out his fantasies too.
As long as you give him a "soft landing" on these ideas he should love it. Just don't throw too much at him too quickly, and if he shows the slightest sign of discomfort or concern be ready to laugh it off as a joke.
"What? You really thought I wanted you to cane my ass? I was just teasing."
Also be prepared not to do this all the time. You can "dilute" the BDSM stuff with plenty of regular sex. If the BJ idea I talked about works, you can picture in your mind that you are performing a submisive and borderline degrading act.
I think you're in a great position, so just take it slowly and I'm sure it will work out.
By the way - if he ever gets to the point of wanting to dominate you but not knowing what to do, you have about a dozen people on here who can give him advice.
Cheers,
Stanley
