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Well, I think it may be jumping the gun here. To say that he's projecting his issues on you is slightly hypocritical, in my opinion. We all have a past, whatever it may hold. As stated in other threads, most people into the BDSM lifestyle have a dark spot in their past. He probably, or obviously, depending on your particular viewpoint. But there's unresolved issues in both yours and his pasts. Those things that we despise about ourselves, we become very sensitive to in others. We objectify those traits we find as critical flaws in ourselves, and push them onto others so we don't have to feel bad about that which we despise about ourselves. I'm not talking about BDSM, or it's lifestyle here. So, it seems to me, that he feels that his physical attractiveness is extremely lacking, and he has trouble trying to cope with that part of him. So, he's making a point to make it about you, rather than him, so he doesn't have to feel or deal with that part of himself. I'd pry into him, and bring out the past of what events that has made him feel this way. To me, it seems more of he doesn't feel worthy of you.
As far as the post about divorce rate, the U.S. has a divorce rate higher than the marriage rate. But, there's some monetary reasons there.
We all have different ways of coping with those deep, dark, unspeakable secrets we keep buried in the depths of our minds. Traumatic events in our lives all bring us to do some pretty irrational things. Things that go against social norms, that we eventually pass on to our offspring, and continue the ever widening pattern. We put up the emotional walls, and bury our personal hell's into secrets that destroy us. If we'd break down those walls, such as BDSM has a way of doing, as well as other ways, we could stop the poisoning of ourselves, and move on to better places. But I still think it's hypocritical to suggest kicking someone to the curb, because they have trouble coping with their past, unless they fundamentally refuse that option, or it's a dangerous situation, either physically or psychologically. We've all been in a place at some point where we exhibit irrationality.
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