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sklabos_smith
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hello....
my name is sklabos_smith. my Husband is my owner though sometimes i have a hard time behaving. i try to control myself and it doesn't always work.
i could use another sub to talk to or better yet a wise Dom/Domme to speak with on working to better my relationship. in return i am prepared to discuss online (via email) some role play.
i don't know what else to say - so respectfully i head off to wander the new forum.
*head bowed*
sklabos
my name is sklabos_smith. my Husband is my owner though sometimes i have a hard time behaving. i try to control myself and it doesn't always work.
i could use another sub to talk to or better yet a wise Dom/Domme to speak with on working to better my relationship. in return i am prepared to discuss online (via email) some role play.
i don't know what else to say - so respectfully i head off to wander the new forum.
*head bowed*
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Hello, I can say I never thought I'd find myself here and I need some help..starting a new phase in my life with a very willing partner(sub) well we will be switching but I don't know what to do with him exactly all he tells me is he wants to be told what to do.....Help
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Sklabos and Bmyself, welcome. The best thing to do is browse the forums and find a discussion that looks useful and then ask questions. Or start your own thread focused on your concerns.
Bmyself, the place to start with your sub guy is to find out what particularly turns him on. You know he likes being controlled, but that's just the tip of the iceberg--you need to figure out what he likes being told to do. There are a couple of broad categories of control that might appeal to him, so you'll need to find out more. He might like bondage (being physically controlled and immobilized), he might like pain (spanking, nipple play, cbt), he might like humiliation (verbal abuse, forced femininization or infantilization, puppy play, being made to do degrading tasks), or most likely, he likes some combination of those. Or he might just like you have complete control sexually (like you telling him where to put his tongue, etc).
So here's a way you might get started. Order him to strip naked and kneel in front of you while you're standing or seated). Tell him that you're in charge, and that you get to do anything you want to him. Then order him to tell you exactly what turns him on. Keep demanding more information. Listen carefully and then do one of the things he's mentioned. But do it mean. For example, let's say that he says he wants you to play with his nipples. Lean down, grab one of his nipples and start to pinch it. "You mean like this? Is this what you want?" Say it like you're angry or contemptuous of what he wants. Gradually increase the pressure--start light and slowly increase the intensity until he starts squirming. "I thought you said you wanted this, bitch. What's wrong?" Most subs like their doms to be a least a little harsh, and this is especially true for guys who like humiliation (and most male subs tend to like some humiliation, so try calling him bitch, faggot, pussyboy, or whatever and see how he responds. If he clearly likes that, try mocking him for getting off on being treated that way--"how pathetic you are to like me calling you names. No real man would tolerate that.").
One important precaution. Before you start playing, arrange a safe word, a code word that means 'stop'. Choose something that neither of you would normally say during sex. "Red" is the classic example. This allows him to ask you to stop what you're doing without actually wanting you to stop. And unless/until he says 'Red' you know it's ok to keep going. If he uses the safe word, stop what you're doing and find out why he wanted you to stop.
But you could use a scene like this to interrogate him about what turns him on. It would let you explore things and see how he reacts. Once you've figured out at least roughly the sort of stuff he's interested in, start reading up on that. Bondage is really different from humiliation, for example, although there are certain things common to both. Most forms of d/s play have pitfalls or risks of one sort or another, so don't explore too far without doing a little reading beforehand. Use common sense--if something looks risky, save it until you've done some research.
Bmyself, the place to start with your sub guy is to find out what particularly turns him on. You know he likes being controlled, but that's just the tip of the iceberg--you need to figure out what he likes being told to do. There are a couple of broad categories of control that might appeal to him, so you'll need to find out more. He might like bondage (being physically controlled and immobilized), he might like pain (spanking, nipple play, cbt), he might like humiliation (verbal abuse, forced femininization or infantilization, puppy play, being made to do degrading tasks), or most likely, he likes some combination of those. Or he might just like you have complete control sexually (like you telling him where to put his tongue, etc).
So here's a way you might get started. Order him to strip naked and kneel in front of you while you're standing or seated). Tell him that you're in charge, and that you get to do anything you want to him. Then order him to tell you exactly what turns him on. Keep demanding more information. Listen carefully and then do one of the things he's mentioned. But do it mean. For example, let's say that he says he wants you to play with his nipples. Lean down, grab one of his nipples and start to pinch it. "You mean like this? Is this what you want?" Say it like you're angry or contemptuous of what he wants. Gradually increase the pressure--start light and slowly increase the intensity until he starts squirming. "I thought you said you wanted this, bitch. What's wrong?" Most subs like their doms to be a least a little harsh, and this is especially true for guys who like humiliation (and most male subs tend to like some humiliation, so try calling him bitch, faggot, pussyboy, or whatever and see how he responds. If he clearly likes that, try mocking him for getting off on being treated that way--"how pathetic you are to like me calling you names. No real man would tolerate that.").
One important precaution. Before you start playing, arrange a safe word, a code word that means 'stop'. Choose something that neither of you would normally say during sex. "Red" is the classic example. This allows him to ask you to stop what you're doing without actually wanting you to stop. And unless/until he says 'Red' you know it's ok to keep going. If he uses the safe word, stop what you're doing and find out why he wanted you to stop.
But you could use a scene like this to interrogate him about what turns him on. It would let you explore things and see how he reacts. Once you've figured out at least roughly the sort of stuff he's interested in, start reading up on that. Bondage is really different from humiliation, for example, although there are certain things common to both. Most forms of d/s play have pitfalls or risks of one sort or another, so don't explore too far without doing a little reading beforehand. Use common sense--if something looks risky, save it until you've done some research.
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Hi. My name is Edaniel, and I'm new to the BDSM scene. I'm 18, female, and submissive. I'm currently talking with someone who's willing to train me to be a slave, so I'm excited about that. I have a big interest in puppy play, too.
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welcome you can ask any question and yes we have puppy thread i think it'll be interesting for you
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hi i am new here...
hi i am a male slave and would love to become the toy of a Lady online. i have a most unique machine that allows her to really train me online and really punish me as she decides necessary. the machine that will deliver punishment at the simple press of a button. My stomach is especially sensitive and this is the ultimate online training. This real punch and ache adds realism. To punish me she will actually punch my belly during training as she watches and listens to me receive live. This is 100% online and there are no catches. I am here for fun only. Please message me in yahoo messenger if interested.... i am askmet on yahoo messenger... My belly is yours to torture.....
hi i am a male slave and would love to become the toy of a Lady online. i have a most unique machine that allows her to really train me online and really punish me as she decides necessary. the machine that will deliver punishment at the simple press of a button. My stomach is especially sensitive and this is the ultimate online training. This real punch and ache adds realism. To punish me she will actually punch my belly during training as she watches and listens to me receive live. This is 100% online and there are no catches. I am here for fun only. Please message me in yahoo messenger if interested.... i am askmet on yahoo messenger... My belly is yours to torture.....
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Hi guys, My Master and I have just joined as well. We love the site! It's very informative.
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