L8NightQ
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I was just curious if Doms ever go the other way ie. smiling at the subs, speaking in an ecouraging voice while still giving out orders and punishments.
I'm not sure this is even possible, except at the doctors office. I would describe myself as a loving dominant, and while I've used the proverbial "Good Girl" to one that does my bidding, the punishment or some other form of coercion was the encouraging factor. Feeling controlled, dominated, or forced is almost always a part of the equation. And when I smile, I smile at their predicament.
I think ReallyGreen said it best in with "Most Doms are not evil sadistic sociopaths. They just roleplay one"
Nowadays you have to watch for the flip side.... in that there are lots of sadistic sociopaths that present themselves as Doms to poor unwitting victims, some of whom don't fair so well with the experience.
I find myself warning friends and newbies about letting themselves be tied up by someone they don't know. Someone who's been beating off to Brutal Sex videos on the internet, and hasn't learned and doesn't care about the difference between "hurt" and "harm".
I don't personally know any other straight Doms, but I do know a gay one, and as Sebastian implied, the outward persona seems different with gay Doms, and a lot more obvious.
I always thought I hid my predilection pretty well. Vanilla women don't sense it, but submissive women seem to know.
Over time, I've found that we tend to know our own.
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