'Daddy's girl' is a misnomer FOR YOU. It's not a misnomer in general.[/QUTOE]
Now see... I disagree.
GRANTED, I am but one person. Of this, I am aware. And if people use it to describe me, then it is a misnomer, which is defined as a word or term that people use to describe something that is inaccurate given the base definition of the word or term itself. An outside example of this is the word "ambivalent" which people often use to mean that they feel neutral about something, when in fact the actual meaning of the word is to have strong feelings in both opposing emotions, or contradictory emotions. I don't think ambivalent is a bad word that nobody should use, and I can say the same for "daddy's girl." I'm just bothered by how it is misused, since it effects me.
Now since I'm just one person, it's only considered a 'mistake' when people use it to refer to me. However...
Anna: I think a lot depends on what degree of power exchange a sub has with his/her dom. If you're a 'daddy's girl' or a pet, to my mind that implies that the sub has some real say in things like protocols. So if your daddy wants a protocol that you don't like, you'd be entirely with your rights to disagree and negotiate a more satisfying protocol for you.
See bolded part. A lot of people think the same way you do. They think "well you're not what I would consider a slave, ergo you're a daddy's girl" That's what makes this a misnomer. Given the deeper connotations that I listed earlier, I think this is very incorrect.
I also meant to add: Most of the people I know or know of who are called or call themselves DLGs are very specifically into that kink, not just subs who went 'Oh, we're only bedroom and rules are flexible and we're affectionate, I MUST be in a DLG relationship!' They're people who thought about all the labels before they chose it, and after they chose it, everyone else recognized it through their use. If you're so caught up on people calling you the wrong label, you should probably do the same.
Well good. That gives me hope.
Obviously if someone accuses you of that title, they'd be wrong. It means they used the word wrongly, not that it's the wrong word in every occasion.
True. But with my example of the word "ambivalent" that I used before, just because some people know how to and in fact do use the word correctly, doesn't mean it's not a misnomer. I have only ever heard it used incorrectly, in my mind that's a misnomer. Perhaps my mind will change after I've witnessed enough people using it correctly.
Which leads to that when Sebastian called out the term in the other thread, he was listing a few types of dynamics that might have applied to Anna2, not naming what she was. Which seems to perhaps be part of the problem here?
Oh yea I knew that. I detailed my issue with his post above. It was more so that in his head when a sub has a say in protocol, they are a pet or a daddy's girl. Sadly in my case people tend to jump to daddy's girl right away and skip pet. Seb himself continued to use the term "daddy's girl" which implies incest and other stuff, in the rest of his post rather than pet. That's why this feels like a misnomer to me.
Although you had an idea what daddygirl meant, the reason we all thought otherwise was your annoyance at the term.
Yea Seb something like that. It's cool. I wasn't mad... just confused.
So we assumed you either thought it referred to something more strongly incestuous
It does refer to something incestuous.
or an insult for not being a 'better' sub (not that I know what a better sub would be')
No no. My mind didn't go there.
In any case, it was unnecessary to quote and argue with each of us in turn for the same point; once would be enough.
I like doing things this way. Plus I don't want to ignore anybody and addressing all points from everyone allows be to explain my thoughts in full.
