Tezfiles Premium Max Account
Looking, in my experience, the average gay dom is harsher to his boys than a straight dom is to his women (although there's a lot of variation here, and some straight men can be shockingly harsh). So don't assume that being soft toward your sub is 'gay'. But I take no offense.
First thing is to go slowly. Don't try to do more than your skill level permits. If she wants bondage, start with something simple, like tying her hands behind her. Do some reading about bondage poses and knots before you go too far, because unexpected problems can come up and you don't want to hurt her. Buy a pair of EMT scissors in case you need to cut her out quickly (like if she suddenly gets a bad cramp or a body part goes numb and you're having trouble with the knots).
If she wants spanking, start by putting her over your knee and spanking her like a child. Be playful about it so you can get used to it before you get more aggressive. As her butt starts to redden, stop periodically and caress it. Or you might do a couple slaps and then stroke it with a feather or a silk scarf or something else sensual.
A rape scene can be very intense and very hot. It is an extremely common fantasy, to the point that even those who are not into BDSM often fantasize about raping someone or being raped. Keep in mind that the essence of real rape is sexual violence toward a victim who is unwilling. Rape is non-consensual. Your girlfriend is consenting to this, so it is not rape, no matter how much the scene might otherwise look like rape. In fact, you are doing this at her request, so it's actually the opposite of rape. But again, work up to it. Start out with a scene in which you just push her down on the bed, hold her down while you undress her, and talk about how you're gonna take whatever you want from her. Don't be violent--just talk threateningly to her. Once you get comfortable with doing that, start making it more realistic in whatever way seems best. You might dress in dark clothes and wear a ski mask and jump her in her apartment when she comes home from work (if that seems too much, you could tell her that morning that you're going to surprise her when she gets home). Or you could use a toy gun and play out a scene where you threaten to shoot her (don't use a real gun unless you know absolutely for certain it's not loaded--better yet, by a realistic-looking fake. I've even seen realistic-looking gun dildos). Tie her hands or use handcuffs (buy a real pair of cuffs from a police supply site or an army surplus store--don't use the crappy ones you can get at Hot Topic, there are lots of problems with them).
You clearly love your girlfriend; you're pushing into something that makes you uncomfortable because she's asking you to. Most doms love their subs--even if they're not a couple, a dom and a sub frequently develop deep emotional bonds. You don't want to be a dom who doesn't care for and respect his subs--we call them psychos and assholes. The thing is that you're assuming that the only reason you would hit your girlfriend or cause her physical pain is if you were angry or hated her. In that case, spanking her or biting her would be an expression of hatred. But in an erotic context, spanking, biting, paddling, flogging or whatever is not an expression of anger or hatred; it's an expression of love. You are trying to reach a very deep part of her that is only accessible through power exchange and erotic pain. So think of spanking her and 'raping' her as a way to communicate your love to her. I sometimes use the metaphor of language. If I say "Ich liebe dich" to you, it means nothing and sounds sort of harsh. But to a German-speaker, it says "I love you." Erotic violence and pain says "I love you" in a language that your girlfriend speaks.
Do you know about safe words? Give her a couple of them so she can stop the action if she gets uncomfortable. That way you know that until she uses a safeword, she's enjoying what you're doing. That will give you the confidence to keep going with the scene without wondering if you're actually hurting her or not.
FileBoom Premium Account
Keep2Share Premium Account
