50 shades...sorry to bring it up again but

[subarama30]

Dear Lordy, my other half decided it would be funny to buy me the book because I have been bitching about it so I thought I would read it.

I'm only about a third into it and cannot believe the hype around this. Even if I wasnt taking it from a bdsm stand point, it's mediocre at best, and annoying at worst. I just can't get into it but Im forcing myself. It's not a turn on in the slightest so I just don't get it.

And the way he takes a virgin and wants her to sign a contract of submission when she has no points of reference for anything other than one day of sex with him is ridiculous. How can you agree to something when you have no idea what it entails?!

And I won't even start on the multiple orgasms from someone who apparently doesnt even masterbate and convenient total lack of gag reflex she has *sigh. And yeah, if I'd written Twilight I would want some major royalties for the rip off.

Ok moan over.

 

[Moonlight]

I know right. I bought the book since I had a few of my facebook friends raving about it saying how awesome it was. So I am trying to get through the last book and I keep putting it down and forgetting about it. I dont see the hype either.

 

[subarama30]

I finished it and I am pissed that I wasted the past two days reading it mostly because it really does paint bdsm in a bad light. Why does he have to be so damaged? Ana actually calls him not normal for liking what he likes. I thought what he did to her was pretty tame throughout the whole book, the only part where he was harsh was at the end and she asked for that so can't see why she got mad. Plus them having sex while she was on a period just icked me out but I don't do bleeding, personal thing.

I shall not be reading the next two that's for sure.

 

[Moonlight]

I know. It was annoying.

 

[Moonlight]

And the last book he is furious and I mean over the top furious with her because she goes out to a bar to have a few drinks with her best friend. Really??? Geez I would go insane and probably leave if my husband had that kind of a fit because I went out with a friend. I know for a fact he wouldn't since I go out with my friends all the time.

 

[sebastian]

That's a total abuser thing to do. Real doms don't freak over that--they know that subs need social support

 

[Moonlight]

I have heard more then once the entire book is about abuse. It is dangerous because a woman who is living in an abusive relationship could read it and talk herself into believing her partner is not really abusive he is just into BDSM.

 

[AriBee]

Well it's also dangerous because women now want this type of man and might convince themselves that the abusive qualities are romantic and go out openly searching for a man who may portray these. "Ohh he's angry, he cares about me." or "He looked up every little detail about me, he really wants to be with me!"

 

[Roland]

It's also dangerous because some men think women want this kind of man, too. Many men could try to take advantage of the situation and get away with abuse knowingly and remorselessly.

 

[subarama30]

I agree that because it's so popular men and women could feel that this is the way to go, as messed up as it is.

I dont think the author thought about the impact of her characters actions at all.