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I agree that age is not the factor, so many things can make men leave, or women for that matter. I don't think anything in this life is certain and I don't think that you can ever truly let your guard down in a relationship, even the happy ones. I think even the most stable relationships/marriages can be rocked and forced to break point but if you dwell on it, it will send you crazy.
I am the younger one in my relationship (20 yr gap) and my man was constantly worried that I would leave him for someone younger, closer to my own age but I was equally worried about him walking away because I knew he had left his previous partner after several years and a few kids so I figured he could do the same to me. He never cheated on her but leaving is leaving, and I was scared of being a single mum.
When we get hurt by someone in our past, we can make assumptions about people and expect the same thing to happen. My ex was an abusive ass so I figured my current man would be the same. I kept waiting for him to hurt me. It all shapes our outlook. For me, my parents had a volatile relationship in the early years of my life and though they are much more stable and 'normal' now I grew up seeing things and rationalised that love meant pain, it meant fighting and drama. To me, love wasn't real unless it hurt in some way so I couldn't understand a relationship that didn't have that. I almost caused drama with my man, I wanted that aggressive reaction to 'prove' that he cared about me.
Man, I sound messed up but I'm trying to make a point, don't know that I have lol
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