You should try to find a munch near you (I assume you've gotten the idea of munches from the FAQ or elsewhere, but in case you haven't- a casual meeting of kinksters, usually plain-clothed and quiet, usually in a restaurant or bar. Kink isn't always the discussion, but it is where you'd meet kinky people).
I definitely suggest
Fetlife. There are various reasons for and against it being a good site, but it is absolutely one of the best ways to find locals. Most areas have groups set up, you can search for events near you, and you can search by location for other kinksters to try and meet people. You need to make an account to view anything, so it wouldn't have come up on your google searches and stuff.
If your town is too small for events and even munches, chances are the nearest larger town or city does, and there will probably be other people from your town going there.
As far as offline things go- I don't know where you live, but in Canada and the US it's Pride season. If you have a pride parade near you, especially one with a little festival following it (both of my cities do that, so I'm assuming it's common), you will probably see kinksters around. While Pride isn't about kink, kinksters tend to love pride.
I'd try asking older people about groups and stuff, they're more likely to be seriously involved, in my experience, while younger people, though sincere about their interest, are often less interested in attending munches, and even if they are, less likely to be involved in planning groups and stuff. If you're not too intimidated, leather men and bears would probably be easily able to direct you, and they're easy to spot.
Also try going to your local sex shop. The staff aren't going to be concerned with the idea of kink, so there's nothing to be shy about, and often sex shops sponsor kink events, or have booths selling at them, or sell tickets, so there's a good chance they'd know.
Other than that, OkCupid and other dating sites are alright ways of meeting new people near to you, and you can put the interest in kink and finding local friends and groups, while keeping it a bit vague about your other details, if you're worried about being 'found' (if you're not, then be as detailed as you can, people like knowing who they're talking to).
If you go to clubs and stuff, especially ones that host smaller scale shows and theme nights, keep an eye on their schedule. If you don't go to clubs, you might want to call or email them and ask about events.
That's all I've got right now, but I'm probably missing some obvious stuff.
You might need to go out of town a bit, but chances are if you go to larger events, people from your town will be there, and you can form your own group or side-group.
