Hi aenirin,
Welcome to the board.
I agree completely with what the others have said, but let me add some ideas.
You can "worship" this woman by offering her the ultimate pleasure that she's seeking - which would seem to include bondage, domination and S&M. The fact that you're "worshipping from the Top" is just the way it is.
Most of us like to feel secure in our relationships, and by truly understanding what the other person wants/needs I think we can genuinely make each other happier.
Remember too that you are allowed to have hard limits as a Dom. Just as you would respect her hard limits, you need to talk to each other about how far you feel comfortable in taking this play.
Your hard limit may change over time. For example, right now you may be quite understandably reluctant to cause long-lasting marks on her skin - such as those that a cane would leave. Perhaps she'd like to be caned, but today she would have to accept that this is your hard limit.
Over time, once you've become more confident about how marks such as a cane-induced welt can fade and not leave scars, your limits may change.
You both need to understand that this kind of change isn't helped by rushing things - that's why one of the most common pieces of advice is "take it slowly".
When you talk about BDSM to each other, try to find shared fantasies that excite you both, and build scenes around those to begin with.
If you introduce something new that only one of you "likes", first of all make sure it doesn't break a hard limit for the other person, but then see if you can adapt your new fantasy so it's more compatible with the other person's preferences.
Here's a simple example:
- YOU LIKE: Her dressing in sexy lingerie, and you like to play soft music while you stroke her all over with your fingertips.
- SHE LIKES: To be tied up and spanked.
OK, it's easy to see how we can bring these ideas together. She dresses in lingerie. You tie her (following safety guidelines) to the bed and you start by stroking her gently. After a while you "find a reason" to punish her - perhaps with clothes pegs on her nipples, or by rolling her over and spanking her.
You can still tell her you "worship her" while this is going on, but maybe put it in the context of "but why do you have to be such a bad girl? I'm afraid you need to be punished."
I hope you have fun!
Cheers,
Stanley
